Recently, a blog post I had been perfecting for several days and was ready to publish received negative feedback when I showed it to my editor (i.e. my husband). After we kindly discussed his viewpoint for a few minutes, I permanently shelved my work, understanding his perspective. Since publishing gives me an opportunity to connect with and hopefully encourage you, I felt disappointment as I left the room even though I trusted we had made a wise decision.
Then, a realization suddenly hit me. Our exchange was a polar opposite from two years ago when he had not approved a blog post. Verbal attacks had been hurled between the two of us, each trying to prove our point and neither relenting in the least. After a few weeks of such destructive communication, the post was finally shelved, but I made it clear he had not won me over to his viewpoint. For several months our relationship continued to deteriorate until finally I reached out for help. What I learned through the long, painful transformation in our marriage is highlighted in my post published on May 19, 2020. Now in this moment of another shelved blog post, I was clearly witnessing the reality that we had actually changed. What encouragement!
Do you feel like you’ll never change? That’s what Satan would love for us to believe. However, it’s a lie. Change is completely possible. We do not need to be stuck in our destructive sinful patterns. The transformation will most likely be painful, humbling, and take time, but it is definitely possible. Actually, we’re commanded to change: Romans 12:2 says “And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may prove what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect.” You can also check out Ephesians 4:17-32.
Writing and publishing a post like this makes me a little nervous since Ryan and I have not yet reached perfection, nor will we ever as a married couple. Every day in the little moments of life, we must incessantly choose to love one another. Complacency is out of the question. Slipping back into old ways is a constant threat. However, having recently observed such concrete evidence of change, I risk sharing so that you too can take heart that becoming more like Christ is truly attainable. Perhaps that is the message that you really needed to hear and not the two shelved ones. You CAN change!